Friday, March 10, 2017

Mom Life


Last night Georgia and I were both in tears.  She was hungry, I was tired, and we were both frustrated.  I'm pretty sure I nursed her 5-6 times within 4 hours and nothing seemed to be satisfying her.  It was rough and the hormones definitely don't help the situation but after I finally bit the bullet and let her nurse off my left side which is in excruciating pain from a bad crack, she was satiated and we were both able to finally get some sleep.  My instincts were telling me that she had nursed too much on the right and wasn't getting enough.  I was right, I wish I would've realized it sooner.

Luckily most of our nights have been the opposite of this.  Georgia is a champ at nursing and sleeping.  She's sleeping through the night and I'm waking her to feed about every 3-4 hours.  I've been getting great sleep myself, something I never expected to happen in these early days and I'm taking full advantage because I know those days are probably numbered.  I've been a mom now for 16 days and these 16 days have flown by, even just sitting around doing nothing but staring at her or watching countless reruns of Friends on Netflix, I'm soaking in as much as I possibly can because every day she changes so much.  

You might be wondering how on Earth I have time to type up a blog post, I kinda wonder that myself but she is currently fed and napping in her rock n play so I figured I'd take a quick moment to do an update.  I've been lucky that my parents have been over practically every day which gives me a chance to shower, do a load of laundry, eat an uninterrupted meal, etc. we just really miss Joe and hope that he gets to be done with the outage soon.  We are ready to spend some time as a family of three.  He's actually more exhausted right now than I am!  

I've definitely had my bouts of crying and my moments of frustration but Georgia is seriously a great baby who rarely ever fusses unless she's hungry.  I love getting her dressed in cute outfits every day and putting a little bow on her head, I never imagined I'd actually get to be on this side of our infertility journey and enjoying what it's like to be the mom to a daughter.  Joe said to me the other day, "can you believe we have a baby" and it feels so surreal that we actually do HAVE A BABY.  We are so in love with her & everything about being her parents, the hard times and the good times.  

For those wondering, I am recovering really well from the c-section.  I'm less than 10 pounds away from my pre-pregnancy weight and everything else is healing well.  I've been released to drive, to do yoga, and to walk so I'm hoping we get some warm weather during my weeks off so that we can take some walks outside.  I'm already 2 weeks into my 8 week maternity leave, but I'm taking an additional week of vacation at the end so I won't be going back to work until around the first week of May.  The time is already passing too quickly and it will be over in no time I'm sure.  That being said, I'm off to go tend to my babe.  

Quickly though, for anyone still struggling, or anyone considering donor eggs, embryos, sperm, adoption, or surrogacy, DO IT.  Just do it, don't worry about "what if she/he doesn't look like me", don't worry about the fact that the DNA of your child isn't yours, all of that worry will be nothing but an afterthought and I can tell you it was 100% worth the time, the money, the tears, the frustrations, the losses, the pain, all of it, for THIS girl.  

11 comments:

  1. Sounds like you are recovering so well! And figuring out baby Georgia perfectly. Just keep in mind that you are building your supply in the first 6 weeks. So baby will practically be on the breast nonstop. Her just being latched on helps stimulate milk production. You got this! I would spend hours just watching tv and letting Liam nurse as he pleased.

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  2. Hi- I've never commented before but I've been reading your blog since just before you decided to do DE IVF. We found out not long after we couldn't use our own eggs and ended up having a friend offer us hers. It's been so wonderful to read your posts while we've been going through the same thing and I'm so happy for you. We are currently 26 weeks and I was just reading that last paragraph and appreciate it so much. I know there will be questions or comments from people to deal with in the future but it doesn't even matter and the baby inside feels 100% mine. My donor feels that way too. Anyway, thanks again for your blog and congratulations on your beautiful baby!

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  3. Crying when the baby does? Yup that sounds normal! Glad to hear you are recovering well and settling into a routine after only 16 days! Kudos for managing the baby wearing device! I had to get a Bjorn, couldn't figure out a free form carrier without tying myself up in knots

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  4. so sweet!!!! That last paragraph. Just so happy for you!

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  5. I'm so happy for you! No matter how our children come to us, they are the most precious gift from God and they are our children. Their DNA does not change that. God hand picked you to be Georgia's mom!

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  6. I'm so glad your getting sleep and you have your parents help/relief! Sometimes you just have to go with your mom instincts! She sounds like such a great baby and I'm so glad your enjoying motherhood! She sure is precious. Hope the weather warms up for you soon!

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  7. Loved reading this, and still just so so happy for you and your precious family! We had our childbirth class yesterday and it just made me so excited for him to be in my arms, 12 weeks to go <3

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  8. Crying sounds totally normal to me, heck just the other day I was crying because he was crying and I just didn't know what else to do! Had to pass him off to the hubby for back up! It sounds like you are doing great Elena! I am so glad to read you are healing well also.

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  9. so good to hear you are recovering well and georgia is a good baby. poor joe, hope he is able to get some time off/or work gets less crazy soon!

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  10. Motherhood definitely has their good and bad moments and I wouldn't trade it for anything. I agree with Amie as well I sometimes feel like crying myself when my toddler doesn't listen to me. Motherhood brings a new meaning to patience. Glad you are recovering well and can start enjoying your time off more comfortably. She's a beauty!

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  11. Glad you're recovering well. If you haven't tried yet, the Medela hydrogel pads are a Godsend for sore/cracked/bleeding newbie nipples. SO soothing.

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